As a single mom, managing your finances can be difficult enough, but when you’ve experienced emotional abuse, it can make it even more challenging. Emotional abuse can come from a parent, partner, or friend who prioritizes their needs over yours and manipulates you to serve their wants and desires. The result can be feelings of worthlessness, low self-esteem, and anxious feelings. This emotional turmoil can lead to an inability to manage your finances efficiently and may result in mounting debt, difficulty budgeting, and an over-reliance on credit. In this blog post, let’s explore the effects of emotional abuse and I’ll provide some tips on how to manage your personal finances as a single mom.

Understanding Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a type of psychological manipulation, where the abuser uses tactics such as gaslighting, belittling, and blame-shifting to control and manipulate. This form of abuse can leave victims feeling confused, unsure in decision making, isolated, and powerless, which can result in making it difficult to manage your personal finances. It’s important to untangle these feelings. You may also feel like you are undeserving of financial stability and security, which can lead to inaction when it comes to managing their finances.

The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Personal Finances

Personal finances can be impacted in various ways when you’ve experienced emotional abuse. You may overspend on things that make you feel good or avoid bills altogether because you are emotionally exhausted and it feels too overwhelming. As a result this leads to mounting debt and financial insecurity. Additionally, if you have a low self-esteem and lack confidence in their decision-making, this makes you feel like you cannot make sound financial choices. I am here to say, you have it within you, you just need support.

Taking Control

When you’ve experienced emotional abuse, taking control of your personal finances can feel like it’s a daunting task. However, it’s crucial to take action and ignore those negative emotions that are creating financial uncertainty for you. Begin by create a budget, or what i like to call a saving and spending plan. Make sure your bills are paid on time and if you need help, I am here for you. Take small steps and you will continually regain control of your finances and your life. It’s going to be amazing!

Seeking Support

It can be challenging to overcome the effects of emotional abuse on your own. Seeking support from a trauma informed therapist, friends or by someone who understands you (me) and has walked this path before. Join my private facebook group for support and get the answers you are wondering about. Did I mention I love talking about personal finances? I do!

Celebrate Small Victories

Overcoming the effects of emotional abuse is a journey, and it’s important to celebrate small victories along the way. Celebrating small wins and progress will help you stay motivated and continue moving forward in your journey towards financial stability and emotional healing.

One Last Thing…

Experiencing emotional abuse can have a profound impact on personal finances and emotional well-being as a single mom. However, understanding the effects of emotional abuse and taking control of your finances can be extremely empowering and transformative. It’s important to take the first step is to heal emotionally, physically and mentally. The 11 Day Jumpstart is an amazing first step. Remember that taking small steps, seeking support, and celebrating small victories can make a big difference in managing your personal finances and overcoming the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse. By prioritizing your financial well-being, personal empowerment, and emotional healing, you are setting yourself up for a brighter future.

💜Renee

Here is a link to the YouTube video where I talk about the symptoms and challenges related to finances after experiencing emotional abuse.