If you don’t learn self-love, it’s difficult to break unhealthy habits. In addition, you must love yourself first, before you can love someone else. I know first-hand how easy it is to constantly give and do everything everyone asks. It’s important to recognize that you need to take care of yourself mentally, physically & emotionally so you can continue spreading all the love you have. If you don’t, and you have to learn the hard way, like me, eventually, you start to feel drained and overwhelmed.
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What does self-love look like physically?
It looks like taking the time to nourish yourself with an activity you enjoy. Something that warms your heart and makes you smile. Here are a few things I enjoying to get you thinking:
- Taking the dog for a walk
- Cross-country skiing
- Kayaking
- Reading a heart-warming book
- Taking a epsom bath with rose petals (try it sometime!)
- Yoga (try Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube)
- Listening to music I enjoy
- Adding essential oils to a diffuser for a mood booster
- Watching a comedy
- Engaging in uplifting, fun conversations with friends.
What does self-love look like mentally?
It looks like being mindful of your thoughts. If you are constantly “playing” negative thoughts in your mind about what others have said to you, that’s not healthy. Instead it’s important to change that negative self-talk to positive self-talk to emotionally heal. Here are a few examples of positive self-thoughts and healing affirmations.
- I deserve a partner who makes me smile, not cry.
- I will stand up for myself even if I feel disrespected.
- I will let go of relationships that drain me and find new ones that energize me.
- I am emotionally strong and confident to be on my own
- I release all negative thoughts and beliefs of myself
- I am worthy of a partner who respects me & knows how to love & appreciate me.
- I deserve to be loved by someone who is grateful to have me in their world
- I am confident without someone standing next to me
- My thoughts, opinions and feelings matter
- I am learning to trust my gut instinct and my heart.
Want a PDF of positive statements and emotionally healing affirmations? I created a PDF of more positive statements and “Healing Affirmations”, to help you through stressful situations to lift your heart, boost self-confidence and self-love.
What does self-love look like emotionally?
Setting boundaries is a key factor in self-love and rebuilding relationships after emotional abuse and learning how to love again. It’s important to draw the line in the sand and stand firm in your beliefs, values and what you expect from people around you. Boundaries are not only important for protecting yourself but also for teaching others how to love, respect and appreciate you.
How do you know if you need to set a boundary? You need a boundary if you feel anxious or dreading a conversation with someone. In addition if someone makes you feel angry or they hurt your feelings that is a sign to set a boundary. Here are a few examples of boundaries that you can set to help protect yourself from the chaos of unhealthy relationships:
- I’m uncomfortable sharing my personal plans, so please don’t ask. Let’s finish discussing what we were talking about.
- I won’t meet you in person, please send an email.
- Please don’t call or text me after 7:00 p.m. unless it’s an emergency.
- If my new relationship becomes important enough, I’ll let you know and introduce you if you like.
- Let’s set a time to talk about this later.
- Please wait to be let into my house.
- I’d rather not talk about that, but I’m glad you had so much fun with the kids!
- Please respect me as the mother of your children.
- Let’s agree to not discuss co-parenting or custody in front of our children. We don’t want to stress them out.
- Please stop, that’s not what we planned on talking about. Did we cover everything you wanted to discuss about our child?
If you’re like me, setting these boundaries at first can be so uncomfortable it gives you a stomach ache! All I can say is that sometimes growth is uncomfortable until it becomes normal for us.
One last thing…
Finally, if you’re struggling to break unhealthy habits, reach out for help. Talk to a friend, professional or join the private facebook group Join the private FaceBook community: Healing from Emotional Abuse for Heart-Centered, Confident, Single Moms where I help highly sensitive, single moms, who are survivors of domestic violence heal naturally from emotional abuse, freeing yourself from suffering in silence, anxiety, guilt, & shame so they can live a life they love in peace, joy and financial confidence. See you in the community!
Getting professional help can be incredibly beneficial in developing a healthier mindset and breaking unhealthy habits.
Being a single mom can be challenging and overwhelming at times, but with self-love and dedication, single moms can enjoy the mental, physical and emotional benefits of a healthier lifestyle. Learn more about how the 11 Day Jumpstart changed my life and can help you improve your emotional, physical and mental health.
It’s about setting boundaries, taking care of yourself and learning to trust your instincts. By embracing self-love, single mothers can be the best version of themselves, free from the chaos of unhealthy relationships.
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Hello, my name is Renee, I am a wife, mom and AFC (Accredited financial Counselor). I specialize in helping busy, single moms learn how to be financially independent so they can eliminate the stress and build confidence around money, so they can buy and do the things most important them.💕 If you want to learn more about why I am passionate about helping single moms, learn more about me and my story.
