The Clingy Conundrum: Is It a Red Flag for Single Moms?

As a busy single mom, dating can be challenging, especially when it comes to figuring out what red flags to look out for. One particular behavior that may be a red flag in my opinion is when a new guy seems overly attached soon after you start dating. It may feel so good to have someone paying so much attention to you, but I want to express it may be a warning sign. Let’s explore this a little closer. That way you can make a decision that’s best for you.

Your gut feeling tells you that something is off

I have said this before, trust your gut instinct. Don’t push these feeling away because you want to have someone in your life so bad. I say this because as human beings it’s important for us to feel loved. Think about how you feel when your new guy insists on spending every waking minute with you or is continuously texting or calling you. If you feel like he’s invading your space or becoming possessive too early in the relationship, don’t ignore it. Your intuition is a powerful tool— use it wisely.

He’s not giving you enough space

If you are feeling like he constantly wants to have all your attention whenever you are available, this can feel suffocating. In addition, it doesn’t give you any opportunity to have the freedom to enjoy who you are and spend time with friends who are important to you. Having a healthy level of independence in any relationship is essential. If he is constantly around, you may feel tension building up because of the lack of freedom. This emotion comes out in the form of resentment or feeling like you can’t make plans with friends (this isn’t healthy). Some clingy individuals think love means being together all the time, which isn’t healthy. It’s vital to have your own identity and space even when you’re in a relationship.

You’re his only source of happiness

People who come across as clingy usually are looking for someone to lean on. This could either be short-term or long-term. As a result, they may be going through a challenging time or just broke up with their girlfriend or newly divorced and need emotional support. You definitely don’t want to be the rebound relationship. If they say “you’re the only one that makes me happy” this could be a red flag. I have said this before, the only person that can make you happy is you. Before entering into a relationship, make sure you love yourself 100%!

One Last Thing…

Being clingy isn’t always a red flag, but it’s always good to be aware and know how to deal with this type of situation before it becomes a significant problem in your new relationship. It’s important to listen to your instincts. In addition, if you feel like you’re moving too fast or sacrificing parts of your life you really enjoy, it’s time to have an honest conversation with him. Remember, healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, communication, and trust. If it’s not there in the beginning, you will not be able to change him or save him from himself. As a single mom, your time is precious, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less than a partner who respects your values and your priorities. Get the PDF of Dating Red Flags. Want more support? Join my private FaceBook group here.