Leaving the Myth of Singledom for Single Moms Who Have Experienced Emotional Abuse

If you’re a single mom, you certainly have your own set of challenges to face, especially if you have faced emotional abuse. In addition, to provide financially & emotionally for your children. You may feel like there are negative social stereotypes that may make you feel alone or even embarrassed. I know I did. If you’re like me, I felt like I was meant to be alone, especially after experiencing emotional abuse. This is a terrible myth that needs to be debunked. I was determined to figure out why I found myself in an abusive relationship so I didn’t repeat it. I want you to know you can heal from the emotional trauma caused by abuse. Let’s explore what healthy relationships look like and how single moms can create new boundaries to feel safe and loved.

Why do I Attract Abusive Men?

First, it is important to understand why you may attract abusive men. Some examples may be that you had a low self-esteem after a divorce or breakup. Another possibility is being single for an extended period of time. Sometimes, you just don’t want to be alone anymore so you settle for someone who may not be as nice to you as you would like. This can lead some women to believe that they can just put up their significant other and make it through so they don’t have to be alone. In other cases, there are men who prey on women with a low self-esteem and find it easy to manipulate her to fulfill their own wants and needs. An example of this is just going along with everything they want to do and so you please them to avoid conflict or simply put your wants and needs aside. In order to break this cycle, it is essential for you to prioritize your healing journey. Self-care, along with rebuilding your self confidence is important along with recognizing the warning signs for toxic relationships.

Why Do I Feel Crazy?

Regarding emotional abuse, single moms may find themselves struggling with the effects of gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the person manipulates the other person into doubting their own perceptions or sanity. For single moms who have already experienced the trauma of emotional abuse and manipulation, it can be difficult to believe that they are worthy of love. Gaslighting can make them feel like they are crazy, which reinforces the idea that they are meant to be alone. It is important to remember that these feelings are a product of the abuse, and are not a reflection of who you really are.

Healing is Possible

To heal from emotional trauma, the first step is to join the 11 Day Jumpstart. The long term affects of emotional abuse is inflammation. We need to heal that inflammation and a great way to do that is in the 11 Day Jumpstart. The 2^nd step is to learn the self-healing tools to recover from emotional abuse. You can learn more about this in my private Facebook community. Get the support you need to learn and understand how to heal and be with like minded professional women to get the support you need. Additionally, learning to set boundaries that are healthy for you can help you feel like you are in control of your own life.

Setting Boundaries

Creating new boundaries is essential for single moms who have experienced emotional abuse. Boundaries can help you feel safe and loved, and can prevent future occurrences of emotional abuse. For instance, setting clear expectations for communication with partners, such as no yelling or name-calling, can help establish a healthy relationship foundation. Additionally, learning to say “no” to things that don’t align with your values and needs, such as overworking, family obligations, or toxic friendships, can help you manage your own emotional well-being.

One Last Thing…

The myth that single moms are meant to be alone is one I believed at one point, but it is important to realize that it is just that: a myth. Every woman deserves to be loved and cared for, regardless of her relationship status. Single moms who have experienced emotional abuse can heal, build healthy relationships, and find joy in their lives. It all starts with valuing yourself and setting new boundaries that put your needs and desires first. Take the time to invest in your own self-care, and you will be amazed at the positive changes that can occur in your life.

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